The phrase "unsuccessful
stepfamilies" doesn't make it sound like something to strive
for, does it?
What is an "unsuccessful stepfamily" and
what is the difference between unsuccessful stepfamilies and successful
stepfamilies? What are the key issues of stepparenting?
In this groundbreaking book, Kali and Elizabeth Schnieders share their
painful, powerful, and ultimately joyful story. They lead you
from the creation of an unsuccessful stepfamily through to the
joy of becoming a successful stepfamily - a family.
Many of us have grown up with the story of Cinderella, the classic
story of a family that is broken when it becomes a stepfamily.
For those who have survived the challenges of being a member of
a stepfamily, you know that the goal is to become a blended family
- a true family.
Confusion, grief, jealousy, frustration and anger
are all commonplace in unsuccessful stepfamilies.
"All of our temptations are common to man, but God
(1 Cor. 10:13)
Stepparents are tempted to think:
"I'm in over my head. Maybe I've made a mistake with
"Divorce is NOT an option, but how can I stay sane
while waiting for an empty nest."
Stepchildren are tempted to think:
"Why did this woman have to marry my Dad and wreck
"I want my real mom!
Through pain, hard work, and their faith and reliance on the bible,
blended families such as that of Kali and Elizabeth Schnieders
have achieved great success. As Kali and Elizabeth will tell you,
the guidance of family and friends and the bible made all the
difference to this blended family.
While Kali and Elizabeth's family might be referred
to as a "bible
blended family," it is not only reliance on the bible
and their faith that made the difference. As you will learn in
this remarkable story, it is also the strength and determination
of these two women that enabled them to become a loving family.
Of the many women's issues faced in today's complex world, creating
blended families and stepparenting have become far more common.
If you are struggling with this same issue - that of being a member
of one of a growing number of unsuccessful stepfamilies, of being
a stepparent or stepchild - read
It will give you the hope and the confidence that make all the
This book does not try to convince you that there is a quick
your problems. What it does do is help you ask yourself some
key questions to use as a springboard for working through your
You're NOT My MOM offers hope.
It also offers:
- Help. Gain a fresh perspective
on your own situation as you discover the secrets of staying
the course (when you'd rather toss in the towel). Through our
ups and downs you will see how growth eventually comes if you
stick with it.
- Comfort. Breathe a sigh of
relief, as you discover that you are not alone...your struggles
are commonly shared by stepparents (and many birth parents as
- Peace of mind. Feel the "worry
wrinkles" ease from your brow as you come to believe that any
stepfamily can learn to cope with the day to day issues.
- Insights. Thought provoking
questions at the end of each chapter will help your family grapple
with the tough stuff, and discover ways to move from conflict
- Power. You will encounter
bitter enemies who defeated their hatred and became best friends.
Discover their secret weapon, and find the surest way out of
the darkness into the light of family joy.
Whether your stepfamily was created through death or divorce, you will
be reassured by the words and inspired by the outcome of this story.
The thought-provoking struggles, and tender moments are infused with
a polite dose of heavenly grace that will encourage people of all faiths.
And you may find yourself believing for the first time that if your
family will reflect on its behavior, commit to growth, press on in spite
of pain and allow the light of God's love to work there can be
harmony, unity and blessing in your future.
"If an inadequately prepared and ill-equipped businesswoman
who never even babysat can turn into a successful (step)mother, there's
hope for anyone!"
Learn more about the authors and their individual backgrounds.